Yes, I chose to marry a man from the kaafir community .: Sidrah

Yes, I chose to marry a man from the kaafir community .: Sidrah

Sidrah is proud of marrying a Hindu.
She tells herself:
‘Brother, I understand the need for you to defend Islam, and I won’t argue with you there. I know how much it’s needed in this islamophobic world, so I do appreciate, in a way, what you’re doing.
However, what I couldn’t come to terms with was your calling me a kaafir, or comparing me with the Western woman or, above all, calling me a fornicator and adulterer. Did you ever pause to think how hurtful it is to have that allegation leveled against you? How would you react if I were to level the same charge against a woman from your own family? I’m sure it would hurt you as much as it did hurt me.
My only desire is for Muslim men to change their mentalities and lifestyles; in particular, their perception of women, and to start treating women as equals. It’s not to say that I want women to accept a Western way of living, for I do not, but freedom must be permitted, mainly the right to an education, the right to work, etc.
A few days back I came across news in the media of a woman in the Middle East that had her honor violated by a few men. However, rather than punish those men, the authorities chose to blame the woman instead, asking her why she had to go out with the men in the first place.
Such incidents are not uncommon in the Islamic community and, unfortunately, a majority of the Muslim men do carry similar perceptions and ways of thought.

Everywhere, the woman is always to blame.

Men can do anything and get away with it, but the moment a woman does something wrong, or something similar, or chooses to break out of the shackles and demand her rights, she’s the target of ridicule, scorn, and probably the worst kind of verbal or physical abuse. Just look at how many “honor killings” find prevalence in the Islamic community, that too over trivial matters.

Yes, I chose to marry a man from the kaafir community, and I still stand by my decision.

I wanted someone that could respect me as a woman and give me the freedom I desired and, seeing the state of the Muslim male, I knew I had to look elsewhere.
Whether you like it or not, I do take myself to be a believer and, as much as you’re proud to be Muslim, I’m proud to be Muslim as well. And nothing, by the Grace of Allah, is going to ever make me divert from my faith in Him. You can try to convince me otherwise, you can try to call me a kaafir however much you want, but I know I’m not, and that’s all that matters to me. I believe in the oneness of Allah, and It’s only Him that I worship.’…

AAAA Jeddah, Saudi Arabia responded:
‘Sister, i m sorry if i hurt you. But let me tell you one thing if you don’t like the mu slims guys the way they are living in your community you have no rights to say bad about ISLAM, it hurts us, we belive in only two books QURAN & Hadith. about the marriage i will quote you something
“And do not marry Al-Mushrikaat (idolatresses) till they believe (worship Allaah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to ;Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
[al-Baqarah 2:221]

No doubt, this is an aayte Kareemh from Al Qur’an Al Kareem.

Even the slavery of the spouse is called here better.

A large number of Muslims believe in this way in this principle and suggest slavery to their spouses instead improving themselves.

I don’t think it the true concept of Islam.

I don’t think Islam came to release only men from slavery.

It came to free the entire womankind as well.

If my concept is true, the interpretation of AAAA of this aayate Kareemah is wrong.

I invite views from intelligent and sophisticated Muslimahs and Muslims.

AAAA said further:
‘—and tell you how media malign ISLAM in the mind of secularist muslims like you.
i will quote the below again for you read it with open mind.
Allah Almighty warns the Muslims:
“O you who believe, if a wicked evildoer comes to you with a news
report, look carefully into it to verify the truth, lest you harm a
people in ignorance and afterwards feel remorseful for what you have
(Quran, 49:6)
In the time of the Messenger of Allah, the infidels used to spread
lies and slander about the Messenger, and they would propagate false
news reports in order to create dissension and discord amongst the
ranks of the believers. Allah Almighty revealed the above verse so
that the Muslims would be cautious of such reports and so that they
would prevent the seeds of suspicion from entering into their hearts.
Today, the enemies of Islam continue their crusade against Islam,
with the Western media at the forefront of the ideological assault on
Islam. The Western media has consistently proven itself to be
deceitful, biased, and outright wicked; as such, whenever we Muslims
hear anything from them, then we should take it with a grain of salt.
I will continue about the girl who was punished.’…

AAAA Jeddah, Saudi Arabia responded further:
‘Western society falsely claims to have uplifted women
Western talk of women’s liberalization is nothing but a disguised form of exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honour.
Western society claims to have ‘uplifted’ women. On the contrary it has actually degraded them to the status of concubines, mistresses and society butterflies who are mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketeers, hidden behind the colourful screen of ‘art’ and ‘culture’.’…

I said:
‘The trouble with you over enthusiastic ‘Believers'(?) is you yourself think you are omniscient.
How do you know I’m a disbeliever? How do you know what is there in my heart?
I’m not a disbeliever at all rather than being a true or false one.
Secondly, I have asked so many times what is your question about the Ved Mantr you quoted?
You just quote it and ask me to answer.
What is your question?
What is there you think objectionable?
Put you question and get the answer.

‘The Jews say that the Christians have nothing and the Christians say that the Jews have nothing of it, though both read the Scripture. And those who have no knowledge of the Scripture also make similar claims. Allah will surely give His judgment on the Day of Resurrection in all the matters in which they differ.’
Al Qur’an Al Kareem 2 Al Baqarah 113
‘The fact is that no one has any special claim to Paradise; whoever surrenders himself to Allah in obedience and follows the Right Way, shall get his reward from his Lord: there shall be neither fear nor grief for such people.’
Al Qur’an Al Kareem 2 Al Baqarah 112
‘wa la taAAsaw fil-arzi mufsideen’
Do not spread disorder on earth.
Al Qur’an Al Majeed 2 Al Baqarah 60.

‘Whenever it is said to them, “Spread not disorder on the earth”, their reply is, “We only seek to put things aright”.
Al Qur’an Al Kareem 2 Al Baqarah 11
‘Beware! They do spread disorder but they realize it not.’
Al Qur’an Al Kareem 2 Al Baqarah: 12…


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‘V’ innahu fī UMMALKITĀBI ladainā la’liyyun ħakīmun’: 43/4

V’ innahu fī UMMALKITĀBI

ladainā la’liyyun ħakīmun: 43/4:

DSM Satyarthi

The 43rd Soorat, Soorat ‘Az-Zukhruf’ starts with the words:
‘Haa meem.1
‘By the Clear Book;’2
‘Inna ja’alnaahu qur’anan arabiyyal la’allakum ta’aqiloon.’
‘verily We have made it an Arabic Qur’an that you may understand.’*3.
‘V’ innahu fe UMMALKITAABI, ladainaa, la’liyyun hakeemun’
‘Indeed it is transcribed in the Original Book with Us; *2 sublime and full of wisdom.’*4.
Al Qur’an Al Kareem: 43 Az-Zukhruf:1-4

Maulana Saiyad Abul Aala Maududi,rahamatullah alaihi, explains these four aayaate kareemaat from 43rd Soorat ‘Az-Zukhruf’ from ‘Al Qur’an Al Kareem’, thus:
‘*1 The object of taking an oath by the Qur’an is to impress this fact: “We are the Author of this Book and not Muhammad (upon whom be Allah’s peace),” and the attribute of the Qur’an chosen for the oath is that it is a “lucid Book”. To swear by the Qur’an itself with its this attribute in order to impress that the Qur’an is Divine Word by itself implies this: “O people, this is an open Book before you. Read it intelligently. Its clear and un-ambiguous themes, its language and literary style, its teaching which distinguishes the truth from falsehood, all arc testifying to the fact that none but the Lord of the Universe could be its Author. ” Then the sentence:'”We have made it an Arabic Qur’an so that you may understand it.” has two meanings:(1) “It is not in any foreign tongue but in your own language; therefore, you can have no difficulty in assessing its value and worth. Had it been in a non-Arabic language, you could have offered the excuse that you could not determine its being Divine, or otherwise, for you did not understand it. But you cannot offer this excuse about this Arabic Qur’an. Its each word is clear to you: its each passage and discourse, both in language and in theme, is plain for you. Now you may see it for yourself whether this could be the word of Muhammad (upon whom be Allah’s peace) or of some other Arab.” (2) “We have sent this Book in Arabic because We are addressing the Arabs, who can only understand an Arabic Qur’an. The person who disregards this expressly rational ground for sending down the Qur’an in Arabic and regards it as the word of Muhammad (upon whom be Allah’s peace) instead of Divine Word only because Muhammad’s mother tongue is also Arabic, commits a grave injustice. ” (To understand this second meaning, please see Surah Ha-Mim As-Sajdah: 44 and its E.N.’s).

*2 “Umm al-Kitab”: the “Original Book”: the Book from which alI the Books sent down to the Prophets have been derived. In Surah AI-Waqi`ah the same thing has been described as Kitab-um-Maknun (the hidden and preserved Book) and in Surah AI-Buruj 22 as Lauh-i Mahfuz (the Preserved Tablet), that is, the Tablet whose writing cannot be effaced, which is secure from every kind of interference. By saying that the Qur’an is inscribed in Umm al-Kitab, attention has been drawn to an important truth. Different Books had been revealed by Allah in different ages to different Prophets for the guidance of different nations in different languages, but aII these Books invited mankind to one and the same Faith: they regarded one and the same thing as the Truth; they presented one and the same criterion of good and evil; they propounded the same principles of morality and civilization; in short, they brought one and the same Din (Religion). The reason was that their source and origin was the same, only words were different; they had the same meaning and theme which is inscribed in a Source Book with Allah, and whenever there was a need, He raised a Prophet and sent down the same meaning and subject-matter clothed in a particular diction according to the environment and occasion. Had Allah willed to raise the Prophet Muhammad (upon whom be His peace) in another nation instead of the Arabs, He would have sent down the same Qur’an in the language of that nation. In it the meaning and content would have been expressed according to the environments and conditions of the people and land; the words would have been different and the language also different but the teaching and guidance the same basically, and it would be the same Qur’an though not the Arabic Qur’an. This same thing has been expressed in Surah Ash-Shu`ara, thus: “This (Book) has been revealed by the Lord of the worlds. The trustworthy Spirit has come down with it upon your heart so that you may become one of those who are (appointed by God) to warn (the people) in plain Arabic language; and this is also contained in the scriptures of the former peoples.” (vv. 192-196).(For explanation, see Ash-Shu`ara: 192196 and the E.N.’s on it).
*3 This sentence is related both to Kitab-i mubin and to Umm al-Kitab. Thus, it is in praise of boththe Qur’an and the Original Book from which the Qur’an has been derived. This praise is meant to impress the fact that if a person dces not recognize the true worth of this Book and dces not benefit from its wise teachings because of his own folly, it would be his own misfortune. If someone tried to degrade it and found fault with it, it would be his own meanness. It cannot become worthless on account of someone’s lack of appreciation of it, and its wisdom cannot be eclipsed by anyone’s throwing dust at it. This is by itself a glorious Book, which stands exalted by its matchless teaching, miraculous eloquence, faultless wisdom and the sublime personality of its great Author. Therefore, none can succeed in minimizing its value and worth. In verse 44 below the Quraish in particular and the Arabs in general have been told that the revelation of the Book for which they are showing such lack of appreciation had provided them a unique opportunity of honour, which if they lost, would subject them to a severe accountability before God.(Please see E.N. 39 below).


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